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I Look Forward To Kneeling At Her Throne Made From The Bones Of Mortals: A Review Of The Trailer For Steel Magnolias

I Look Forward To Kneeling At Her Throne Made From The Bones Of Mortals: A Review Of The Trailer For Steel Magnolias

In which Gina Rickicki and Benjamin Carr review the trailer for Steel Magnolias.

BEN
My first experience with Steel Magnolias was looking at my mom’s eyes after she saw it for the first time. They were all red from crying, but she was smiling. So when I asked her if she liked it, she said yes, and I asked her if it was a comedy or a drama. And she said it was both.

In the movie, Dolly Parton says that laughter through tears is her favorite emotion, so I realize now that my mom had been gobsmacked by this movie. Since I’d just sat through The War of the Roses instead, I felt robbed. So I watched it on video. And then I rewound it and watched it again. And then I watched it again. And then I would just rewind that locker room scene with all the naked football players and watch that a couple times. And then I would watch it again. I think I’ve memorized Steel Magnolias by now. Which is a good thing. Because every other gay man in the city has, too.

Miracle On 34th Street: Richard Attenborough Still Insisting Jurassic Park Also Metaphor For Gay Rights

Miracle On 34th Street: Richard Attenborough Still Insisting Jurassic Park Also Metaphor For Gay Rights

I might never have my own wedding, because I cannot dance the Electric Slide. With my cerebral palsy, arthritic hip and lack of physical rhythm, it looks like people should be hosting a telethon around me whenever I dance.

Before Midnight: These Days You Have To Get On Grindr If You Want To Show A Welsh Guy Your Cookies

Before Midnight: These Days You Have To Get On Grindr If You Want To Show A Welsh Guy Your Cookies

It was March 1996, I was 19, and my Telnet chat-based gay flirtation was a-coming my way from Wales on a Tuesday. What Welsh Guy wanted of me was to talk and talk and talk about ourselves and what we believed in and what our dreams were and “Gosh, they sure do put a lot of ice in drinks here in the States,” and to give me two weeks of wonderful, beautiful first kisses that now feel sepia-toned and underscored with violins.

Superman II: They Just Don’t Throw Kids Off Buildings Like They Used To

Superman II: They Just Don’t Throw Kids Off Buildings Like They Used To

My fear of heights started in a movie theater on my fifth birthday at a showing of Superman II.

At first, it was all unreal fun—Lex Luthor had hair even though my dad told me that he wasn’t supposed to, and the crazy, short-haired Krypton lady with eye makeup and shoulder pads who looked like a Kryptonian real estate agent threw people around until folks wised up and kneeled before Zod.

And then came Niagara Falls.